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We all know that to discipline a child is not an easy task. I give my kids strong, firm reprimand and follow it by a praise. I have punishment schemes and reward scheme, one will not work without the other. Isn't if strange that we seem to always catch them out at doing things that are wrong and rarely notice the good they produce and capable of. The same for some brothers and sisters we know. Anyway try to catch your child out at doing something good. like I saw you sharing that sweet or I saw you help your brother, Masha Allah. I just want to tell you how please and proud of you I am and you get a lot of reward from Allah for doing that and I love you. You try this your child will think there is something wrong with Ummi today. Try doing more praise and less reprimand. Remember the child isn't bad but the actions of the child is bad. Allah created all things good, but we have a choice of what route to take. Allah is Merciful to us when we make mistakes and ask for forgiveness. The Messenger of Allah was gentle and kind towards children. The Messenger said: "He is not one of us who does not show compassion to our little ones and recognize the rights of our elders. "Reported Ahmad". Also: "A Bedouin came to the Prophet , "Do you kiss your sons? WE don't. "The Prophet said, "What can I do for you if Allah has removed mercy from your heart." AL Bukhari. There are many such hadeeth.
I make a reward board for my children. It's quite simple: their name, categories of achievement. It's placed in their room so it's a reminder of what they can get at the end of the day. Each night before bed we have an evaluation of the day for each category. Three stars= one sticker and ten stickers = a prize of their choice. They wanted bikes, so Mahsa Allah after the 10 stickers we bought them both a bike, now they are working up to get a tent with a tunnel and balls. But if they are not been very good or do something that is very bad they get a star taken away. The idea of this is to teach that in life, if you are good or do good deeds you will be rewarded for what you. And you do bad or bad deeds, than these have consequences which we have to face and live up to, and try next time not to do them, Insha Allah.
Please Note: These articles are from a book by Elizabeth Pantley, author of Kid Cooperation and Perfect Parenting. This is the best Book I've found so far on how to discipline my child and it's easy to modify to suit and Islaamic environment. My alteration to these articles are few, this is in places where the content wasn't Islaamicaly appropriate. All the credit goes to the lady of the Book. Permission was given to use these articles on my site. I pray Allah makes it a blessing and help to all of us. ameen
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