If you read the title of this article and assumed it was a parent's statement. Guess again.

Our local newspaper asked 100 kids, aged 7 to 17, the question, "What do you wish your parents did differently?' The most common answer? No, it was not more junk food, later curfews or unlimited TV. The most common answer was, "1 wish they would listen to me."

What do they mean?

When kids want parents to listen to them, they don't mean listen and judge, or listen and nag or even listen and solve. What they mean is they would like their attention and interest. What they want is a parent who will put down the remote control, the newspaper or the book and give them a few minutes of eyeball-to-eyeball listening.

Be an available parent.

Being available when your children want you or need you is a powerful expression of love. Too many times parents tell children that they'll talk "later" or "in a minute" and "late" never comes. Typically, when your child wants your attention, and you respond immediately and totally, your childs needs will be met rather quickly. If, however, your child must wait endlessly for your attention, the problem will grow as he waits, or even worse, he'll take his thoughts to someone else, and you'll never know what you've missed.

Listen for the real meaning.

Children aren't always accurate and articulate when they talk. Often, parents need to "read between the lines". Even as teenagers our children sometimes deliver words that are very different from their intended meaning. It's an astute parent who can get past the words being said to the intended meaning. We sometimes find it hard to do this because we get caught up in our child's tone of voice or manner of speaking. Or we make up our minds quickly as we assume the conversation will be a copy of past experiences. Its a smart parent who will try to get beyond simply listening and move toward understanding.

What's the end result?